Your phone’s incessant buzzing can quickly become a distracting annoyance. Whether a former friend who can’t seem to take the hint or a romantic partner who refuses to move on, getting someone to stop texting you is often difficult and delicate. If someone persists in sending text messages that make you uncomfortable, follow these simple tips to get them to stop.
1. Let them know you unread their text
Most phones have a feature allowing you to mark a text as “unread.” By doing this, you’re essentially sending a message to the other person that you’re not interested in responding without directly saying so. It’s a polite yet effective way of hinting that you’d like for them to stop texting you.
2. Take your communication offline
Suggest that the two of you meet up for a cup of coffee or a walk in the park if it’s safe to do so. Taking the conversation offline allows you to discuss why you don’t want to be texted. Having the conversation in person will also prevent any potential miscommunications that could occur via text.
3. Block their number
If you think the other person isn’t getting the hint and they’re continuing to send texts, it’s time to take more assertive action. Blocking their number is a surefire way of getting them to stop. Most phones have a “block” feature, but it can also be done straight from most phone carriers.
4. Let them know why you don’t want to be texted
Sometimes, a person isn’t aware that you’re feeling uncomfortable. If the person continues to text after you’ve marked their text as “unread,” explain why you don’t want to be texted. Be honest and let them know that the messages make you uncomfortable.
5. Set boundaries
Make sure the other person knows what your expectations are. Let them know that you don’t want to be contacted in the future and that you won’t respond to any messages. Be clear and direct in your communication.
6. Use your words
You don’t have to be confrontational to get your point across. Being assertive yet polite can actually be more effective. When talking to the person, use “I” statements to express your feelings and make your point.
Getting someone to stop texting you is no easy task. It takes assertiveness, boundaries, and the willingness to confront uncomfortable situations. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, talk to a friend or family member for advice or just for support. Remember, your well-being and comfort come first, and you don’t owe anyone your time if you don’t want to give it.