If your friends have a particular sense of humor, they might casually use the term “KMS.”

You’ll often see it on platforms like Snapchat, TikTok, Instagram, or WhatsApp, especially when teens feel overly dramatic and express frustration. 

This article will explore why people use “KMS” and whether it’s said in jest or reflects a more serious issue.

Read on to better understand how to support the people in your life and interpret what they mean when they include “KMS” in their messages.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, please seek immediate help by contacting emergency services or a crisis hotline.

What does KMS typically stand for?

“KMS” is often shorthand for “kill me” and is usually used humorously or sarcastically.

It’s commonly seen in texts or social media, including WhatsApp, Snapchat, and Twitter.

Why do people say “KMS”?

• Is “KMS” usually just a joke? In most cases, “KMS” is meant as a joke or an exaggerated expression of frustration. It gained popularity on Twitter as early as 2009, often used to convey strong emotions, like irritation, in fewer characters. Teens today use it playfully, often in private conversations among friends who share a similar sense of humor. It’s a way to be overly dramatic about minor inconveniences, like a favorite snack being out of stock or having a tiring day.

• Could “KMS” mean “killing me slowly”? Yes, sometimes “KMS” is shorthand for “killing me slowly,” often used when someone is feeling bored or frustrated by something that seems to drag on forever, like a slow TV show or a long class. The tone here is typically dry and sarcastic, reflecting a sense of impatience.

• Does “KMS” ever indicate something serious? Although rare, “KMS” can sometimes be used as a genuine expression of suicidal thoughts. In these situations, the phrase isn’t meant to be funny, and it’s essential to take it seriously. If someone uses “KMS” while talking about emotional pain or life struggles, it’s crucial to offer support and possibly seek help for them.

How can you tell if “KMS” is a joke?

• Is your friend being overly dramatic? Often, when someone says “KMS,” they’re playfully exaggerating an annoyance or inconvenience. They’re likely hoping you’ll join in and laugh with them.

• Are they expressing something they dislike? Some people use “KMS” to emphasize their dislike for something, from flat soda to a casting choice in a movie. It’s their way of getting you to sympathize or agree with their frustration.

• Are they frustrated or being sarcastic? “KMS” can also be used when dealing with a challenge or problem. It’s often said sarcastically in these cases, and they’re likely looking for some reassurance.

• Did they have a bad day? Sometimes, “KMS” follows a series of unfortunate events, and the person may feel down. Offering support and reminding them that things will improve can help lift their spirits.

• Are they bored or impatient? If someone feels restless or stuck in a boring situation, they might use “KMS” to express impatience, counting down the time until something more exciting happens.

How should you respond when someone says “KMS”?

If your friend is joking, laugh with them and acknowledge their dramatic tone. Gently tease them or remind them to take a break and relax if they’re frustrated.

Your positive attitude can help turn the mood around and keep things light-hearted.

When should you be concerned that “KMS” is more serious?

• Has the person talked about suicide before? If someone has previously mentioned suicidal thoughts or attempts, then “KMS” may reflect ongoing struggles with their mental health. People experiencing suicidal ideation might make jokes about it, but this can be a way of expressing deep emotional pain. Pay attention if they’ve discussed feeling isolated, anxious, or like a burden.

• Has the person discussed self-harm? Even if it’s the first time you’ve heard them say “KMS,” if they follow it up with details about hurting themselves, it’s essential to take this seriously. Look out for mentions of physical harm, substance abuse, or signs that they’re neglecting their well-being.

What should you do if you’re worried someone is in crisis?

If you believe someone is at risk of self-harm or suicide, it’s crucial to take action.

Share your concerns with a trusted adult, such as their parents or a school counselor, and encourage them to seek professional help. 

In cases where a person has a plan for self-harm, contact emergency services immediately.

Sharing suicide hotline numbers and offering ongoing support can also make a significant difference.